Later that night, we were discussing relationship matters
when in mid-conversation he recited a quote that he once heard, “You can’t be
afraid to be the person in the relationship who loves the most.” Let me first
say that I was very shocked that this phrase even came out of his mouth and
that he actually kept it in the back of his mind. Secondly, I sat in awe
because he couldn’t be more right.
Quite often I find that there are people who hold back in
their relationship because they are afraid that they might love their partner
more than he/she loves them. “He wouldn’t do that for me, why would I go out of
my way to do that for him.” In a true relationship you can’t hold back. Let the
love flow. Another point I hear couples contemplating are the fear of falling
out of love or losing the original luster that your relationship once had. It’s
then that the “what if’s” begin to circle round. “What if this happens or what
if that comes to be…” the list could go on. But what if we chose to love each
other through whatever circumstance comes our way… then what? We continue our
great relationship and fall more in love. Like anything in life, the new begins
to wear off and things begin to dull. However, from my point of view, I feel
that it is very important in a relationship that one puts their efforts toward
staying in love and trying to keep the new from wearing off rather than falling
out of love. To me, you’ve already set yourself up for failure trying to
prevent the problem other wise.
Have you ever wondered what it might be like if Christ held
out on you because He was afraid that He loved you more than you love him. People
challenge Christ every day. They chose to follow their own ways and ride the
path cut out by satan. They don’t trust the fact that through whatever our
circumstances are Christ doesn’t hold back. Christ loves on us daily, so why
not love on him back. Why not share his love to others. Why not love on others,
as Christ would do. Is it possible that Christ begins to circle the “what if’s”
when we turn on Him and fall into the devil’s trap of sin? “What if he/she just
followed what I laid out for him/her? What if he/she didn’t fall to sin? What
if he/she just loved me enough to trust that I have a plan for him/her…” Despite
the situation, Christ is there to love on us even when we turn from him and
don’t profoundly express His love, as we should. In a significant other
relationship, not fully expressing your love for the other person may bring
about complications. Christ loves us through it all, and He has never once
turned on you. Therefore, don’t be afraid to love Him with all that you have.
As we dig deeper into His word, we find that Christ’s love is new and exciting every day. We realize that even through the biggest storms and the smallest rainfalls, Christ never gives up on us. He never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through ever circumstance. Why not take the time to love your partner just as Christ loves you. Keep the love alive and show them that you appreciate their gestures, their love, and random acts of kindness on a daily basis. Every now and then you may run into a rut and find that life events have dulled over the shine and sparkle; however, it’s never too late to polish up. Despite the contents of our Valentine’s Day gift exchange, we both presented to each other what we thought captured our relationship best. He loves to spoil me and I must admit that I enjoy it; however, it was his words that night will never leave my mind, “Don’t be afraid to love the most.”
"Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful,
and endures through every circumstance." -- 1 Corinthians 13:7 --
- God Speed-
Bobbi LeAnn
